Namaste fam,,,,
This is one of those psychologically stimulating blogs that I am writing after many info loaded blogs. THIS one,,,I had to write,,, for a confidant, but then realized it is also for myself, for some of my family members, some friends, and all those who need some emotional strength and need to accept certain people as they are and ignore them rather than rant about them.
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(I will not be naming anyone for privacy reasons, also I haven't mastered this art myself, learning in progress, urge the ones who need it too.. Disclaimer : Not a clinical advice, take it with a pinch of salt)
There's one thing that I have realized about people. At one layer, they see people, form perceptions and then ignore. The next layer, consistently build up on the perceptions irrespective of validating facts because they want to build a negative image, and there is another section of people that will hear about you, wait for you to clarify and then decide.
The only set of people you should worry about or even care to justify is only the last section, the People who actually Care for you. Ignore, I'm repeating, Ignore the first and second. First is the Random section, Second is the Negative Energy section (yeah they deserve the term)...
Talking about the Random section, they will talk about for a few minutes and then ignore, so no need to even worry about them. Next the Negative Energy section, they are the people you should not just ignore but positively delete from your life. No need of interactions, no need of welcoming unwanted consequences. It's not just a waste of energy to deal with them but a total SIN to even give them your mind-space. They can mostly be your family members, friends or anyone from known network, or random strangers. I've faced negativity from all those sections, I wasn't able to deal with them before, but after some advices from a very few good friends I have and YouTube videos like B K Shivani (absolute gold channel), slowly trying to ignore and delete them.
I understand that in families it becomes an obligation to be in touch with certain people, but not at the cost of your Mental health, no, not worth it at all. Friends, you can disconnect easily, but becomes difficult if it's someone from a group you hang out with...have to find some way out here. Same in a working setup. Keep conversations to minimum and be vocal wherever necessary. It's very crucial to stand up for your values and not budge into what others think is right. It's also not good to face any upfront negativity nor stay around people who don't defend for you. Supporting a crime is as bad as committing one 🙂...
Many a times, Isolation is the best way out. Way better than having to deal with Negativity and feel the pain at every moment. God has given this body and mind to make best use of it, not to waste on such faltu bakwaas.... Respect your peace, Respect your body, Respect yourself if not anything else.
The third section of people who actually Care for you, are the best people, that you should not worry about justifying. They will either dismiss any negative rumors upfront or else have a talk with you and then decide. Both are acceptable and you must preserve such people. Don't loose them at any cost. Such incidents have taken place in my life as well and I respect and adore such people in the utmost manner in my life🧿🩷
Preserving your own mental peace is of utmost duty that you do to yourself... Please, do it. Don't have to care relationships that are one sided! No, not worth it, at all, walk out of all toxic relationships. Favor yourself, don't cry later.
Also, learn to Accept the fact that not everyone will like you. Be okay with it. There are some past life baggages with certain people, avoid them. Don't try to be a people-pleaser Be kind, be humble, but don't be a door mat!!!
A friend once told me something wise, "Pick your fights, don't go on being defensive and justify everywhere, save your energy, don't waste where unnecessary"... this shall stay with me forever.
As the title screams, this is obviously not an easy skill, not so subtle art at all. But a necessity! Come back to this blog whenever you need it, Ik I will..
Remember, Self Love, Self Care, Self Respect is not a luxury, it's a damn duty you should do for yourself, no one else will do it for you. Don't give anyone the authority to play with your mental peace..!
SarvashreeKrishnarpanamasthu...
Radhe Radhe 🩷
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